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Pasalamat

Akong problema isip usa ka magsusulat kay dili ko hanas, bisan og naniguwang na, mosulti atubangan og daghang mga tawo. Kini akong gipadayag dihang nag-atubang ko sa mga kaparyentihan ug kahigalaan sa miaging gabii atol sa katapusang gabii sa haya sa akong inahan nga si Fortunata Nacorda Mongaya.

Pagkahuman sa maong pakigpulong, halos tibuok gabii nga nagbalikbalik kog hunahuna kabahin sa akong gisulti.

Way klarong outline. Nagtuyoktuyok ang mga punto.

Nganong wala ko mag-andam daan og listahan sa mga punto bisan og wa ko sulti-i daan? Klaro na man nga duna gyuy maingon nato nga tribute ug mahimo pang maka-pass ang mga manghon kay sa kinamaguwangan.

Tingale duna lang gyuy mental block. Daw mura kog zombie nga tua sa haya sama kaniadtong namatay sab akong amahan nga si Eleodoro ‘Doroy’ Mora Mongaya kaniadtong 1994. Ang problema kay ang emosyon daw mobul-og pagkalit inig mag-inusara na ka ug ang pait kay magbalikbalik sulod sa katuigan.

Ambot, usahay makahunahuna ko nga mas suwerte ang makangaab ug makaminatay diha mismo sa haya ug sa paglubong sa usa ka minahal nga kinabuhi sama sa amahan ug inahan.

Patalinghugi lang gyud ko nga kining maong lindog akong i-dedicate sa akong inahan karon. Di ko mahimutang kon di ko ni buhaton.

Mom Nats, Mongaya, Nacorda, funeral mass

During the funeral mass at the Sto. Tomas de Villanueva Parish church in Pardo, Cebu City.

Bisan pa man, sama kagabii, tulo lang kabahin kang Mom Nats ang akong mahinumdoman.

Una, ang pagka strikta. Matod pa sa among mananabtan, disciplinarian. Apan, di lang siya disciplinarian. Super disciplinarian. Gani, makaingon ko nga kahadlokan. Murag nasunod gyud niya ang konsepto sa pagdisiplina sa mga katiguwangan.

Bisan pa man, ang ikaduha nakong mahinumduman mao ang iyang kinaiya nga mounong sa mga anak nga nagkasakit ug anaa sa krisis sa kinabuhi.

Akong personal nga mga kaagi mao kadtong higayon dihang nag-typhoid fever ko ug nipauli sa balay gikan sa daghan kaayong mga kalihokan isip aktibista panahon sa diktadurya ni Marcos.

Siya mismo ang nikuyog ug niateman kanako sulod sa duha ka semana sa Southern Islands Hospital.

Pila ka buwan human nawala si Fr. Rudy Romano kaniadtong Hulyo 11, 1985, niabot ang punto nga delikado na alang sa akong personal seguridad ang padayong magpuyo dinhi sa Sugbo.

Ug nakadesisyon ang pamilya nga “i-exile” ako ngadto sa balay sa akong tiya sa Manila kay ang akong tiyo nga dakog ranggo sa kapulisan mahimong makapanalipod kanako.

Ang akong inahan nga nikuyog kanako ug nidesisyon gyud nga mo-leave una sa trabaho diha sa Southern Islands Hospital sulod sa kapin sa bulan aron lang masiguro nga mahimutang ko ug mapaila-ila sa tanang mga paryente nga tua sa kaulohan.

Mao kini ang rason nganong naabot kog Manila dihang nibuto ang Edsa 1.

Ikatulo, didto sa among pagkuyog sa kaulohan nako nasinati gyud nga kami lang duha magkuyog ug akong mahinumdoman ang iyang pagka madaginuton.

Isip kinamaguwangan, nasiguro ko nga daghan og mga higayon nga magkuyog kaming duha sama nianang mas una kong dad-on sa manghihilot nga si Tiago sa Talisay kay sa doctor kon mahilantan. Apan, mas mahinumdoman nako karon kini mga semana sa Manila kay dako na man.

Ug tungod niini, dali ko nga nasuweto kon unsaon mag-jeep ug mag-bus libot sa kaulohan. Gani, makapanghambog ko nga nasulod na namo ang kinasuokan sa karaang Divisoria gikan sa Tutuban station ngadto na sa gamayng terminal kaniadto sa mga jeep nga sakyan padulong sa pier.

Daghan ko og nakat-onan ug ubay-ubay pa ang gusto nakong isulti kabahin sa kinabuhi gikan sa akong inahan. Ug bisan pa man ug dili gyud maingon nato nga way sami ang relasyon tali sa usa ka anak ug inahan, mas makahinumdom ug mangita ko karon sa mga ingon niini nga mga kasinatian.

Hinuon, di masulat tanan dinhi.

Igo na lang tingale nga mopadayag ko og pasalamat, nasiguro ko nga bisan naa na ka padulong sa langit, makabasa gihapon ka niining akong gisulat karon. Salamat Ma.

Magpasalamat sab ko sa tanang mga pangadye gikan sa tanang kabanay ug kahigalaan lakip na sa niduyog sa among kasubo diha sa pag-text ug sa Facebook.

(@anol_cebu sa Twitter)

Football brawl: the other sides


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I write this in the interest of airing other sides of the controversial football brawl during the Sacred Heart School-Ateneo de Cebu -Alcoy Football Club game last March 16, 2014. I bet many already heard the Alcoy side many times, even argued in their favor. But these other sides also need to see the light of day, in the interest of balance and fairness.

Yes, I am the eldest brother of the man in grey — Enrico Mongaya — who entered the scene and has been flogged in social media for a week now.  Yes, this blog post is biased in favor of the other sides.

And yes, I warn you that these other sides may not be right or not entirely right. The truth after all has several sides. But for those who have not yet read but are interested in knowing the other sides, this post is for you.

Why write this only now? Because I received a copy of the statement of the parents of the Ateneo players only hours ago. In my Facebook page and in the Facebook group “Maghisgot Kitag Politika, Bay,” I only talked about the other sides on Thursday, after I actually heard the account of one of the Ateneo de Cebu boys, Jose Mari Kwan.

There are several points of course but I want to present the statement of the parents first:

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While writing this post, I was told that only Cebu Daily News published the letter today.

After the story on Little Azkal Kintaro Miyagi in Fullpoint.com, the Manila Standard picked up Miyagi’s story and this was published on Thursday. Check out this link: http://manilastandardtoday.com/2014/03/20/mother-seeks-justice-for-mauled-footballer/

The Sun.Star Cebu story on Miyagi was published on Friday or five days after the incident: http://www.sunstar.com.ph/cebu/sports/2014/03/20/mom-wants-justice-334131

Then, allow me to present the account of little JM Kwan about his experience. Because no reporter asked Kwan about his side, he posted this in his Facebook account. I had shared this online since Thursday. It was published only in Superbalita on Saturday. Below is a screenshot of his Facebook timeline:

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Amid all the stories that came out last week, one columnist reached out and wrote about Enrico Mongaya’s side. Here’s a link to Michelle So’s column: http://www.sunstar.com.ph/cebu/opinion/2014/03/19/so-football-spectator-speaks-out-334021

Next, let us revisit the injuries of the 5’7″ tall goalie Rodenel Binolirao Jr. He was shown bloodied in a photo taken on Sunday March 16, 2014 that came out several times in Sun.Star and posted several times online in various social media channels.

Here is the description of the injury by his uncle, Sun.Star sports writer Rommel Manlosa in our PM exchanges last Monday when I offered myself as bridge and I still have yet to hear the other sides.

I have no quarrel with Rommel. I consider him a friend. I understand he is after the welfare of his nephew. We are dragged into this partly because of family. He believes the version of his nephew and he urged the family to file a case against my brother. I am expressing myself in this post.

Just allow me to quote Rommel when he mentioned the use of a Swiss knife by my brother while I told him it was Rico’s car key:

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Then, his nephew Binolirao suffered a big head wound. “Ang akong pag-umangkon dako kaayo og samad sa ulo.”

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I remember reading somebody from the Cebu Football Association (CFA) describing the injury as a “nasty gash.”

Two days after the incident, Binolirao went to the Cebu Provincial Capitol and appealed for help. Here is a picture of Binolirao with Cebu Vice Gov. Agnes Magpale that was published in Superbalita:

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I am still wondering where is the “dakong samad” and “nasty gash” that was stabbed by a “Swiss knife.” Maybe, the photographer missed the wound on Binolirao’s head. Or maybe, it was not that serious after all.

But whatever, even if Binolirao choked little JM Kwan, many contend that hitting the former on the head is unjustified. An adult has no right to enter a football field to interfere in a fight between kids even if a 5’7″ teener is choking a 5 foot tall boy. Non-interference takes precedence over saving a smaller kid from being choked.

Still, the argument goes, but why hit Binolirao on the head?

Allow me to post this screenshot as part of the other side:

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Yet, was it a headlock? Neck cranking? Or was Binolirao merely pinning JM Kwan? The pictures that were published and shared online only made many to go into another round of arguments. I, however, asked the opinions of Atty. Vicente Fernandez who is a judo instructor and fellow journalist John Rey Saavedra who is a jujitso instructor. On Facebook, there are also those who insisted JM Kwan was only pinned down, not choked nor was his head being cranked.

For ordinary laymen like me, we can say “gitook.” And that was what Rico saw at the heat of the moment.

Maybe, Sun.Star needs to publish a clearer picture of the situation before Rico arrived at the scene. So far, this was the only one published and five days after the incident:

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With all these said, I can only add that my brother made a judgement call that many disagreed with. However, there are a few like little JM Kwan and the relatives of the other Ateneo players who believed Rico saved a life.

Ah, JM Kwan said his Tito Rico saved two lives. And his family is in the process of filing a case against Binolirao.

At this point, I want to touch something legal. There are also legal points like child abuse and defense of strangers. But I am not a lawyer so I will just present screenshots:

1. Here’s this piece of jurisprudence on child abuse:

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2. Here’s a screenshot of the blog of Atty. Manuel J. Laserna Jr. at http://attylaserna.blogspot.com/2012/02/self-defense-explained.html

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As I said in the onset, this blog post is biased in favor of Rico, my brother. But I know the points presented by both sides. I won’t begrudge you if you will still join the lynching as long as you have also examined both sides and found the other sides wanting.

I respect all your opinions. All I am asking is also respect for my opinion. In the end, the controversy will be decided in the proper forums and Rico is prepared to face the consequences, unless of course there will be reconciliation in the mutual interest of all concerned.

Related links

“Take a Second Look” (Cebu Daily News)

Jose Mari Kwan’s Facebook Timeline

My In Between Columns on Facebook

Also follow @anol_cebu on Twitter.

The Christmas Story as told by children


The story that started Christmas centers on the birth of Jesus. I grew up knowing this story by heart and reminded about it every time I saw the Belen come Christmas time.

In fact, the Belen had been the center of attraction in Christmas decorations during my childhood days. I can’t forget that moment when Tatay Doroy brought home a simple cardboard Belen that we had to assemble together.

Times, however, seems to have changed.

Today, one would not miss the Christmas tree complete with lights, glittering Christmas balls, and the gifts beneath it in almost every home. Santa Claus is also a permanent fixture in many homes. But not the Belen.

Oops, it seems we’re also guilty of this lament, not because we forgot. The set we kept was already damaged and when I had the time to do some Christmas shopping, it was already hours before Christmas Eve.

To make up, I am sharing this YouTube video produced by the children of St. Paul’s Church on the Christmas story that I found thanks to Istorya.net: